Will you tell her??

I want a friend that asks me how my day was, and excepts a “fine.” I want to ask someone about their life, and then get a “swell” in return. I want to discuss only pleasantries and the weather and possibly a recent news article. I want to have shallow and meaningless conversation with someone who knows it is shallow and meaningless.

I want to have a relationship with the least possible amount of “deep” and “mushy.” I want easy, fun, and acquaintance-like conversation all rolled into a friend. I am tired of heartfelt and soul baring moments. I am tired of being emotionally invested. I DON’T WANT IT RIGHT NOW!

I love people, I love my friends, I love to help people work out those problems that they just need to talk over…

But I also love to not be me, not be deep, and not be committed anymore than politeness dictates. I love to have conversations where I don’t have to talk about how I feel, or what I want out of life, or how I’d like get to know someone better.

Now that I have gotten that off my chest, I’d like to share how I feel about something J

So… ummm… Are you going to tell her she’s adopted?

Cierra and I look a lot alike. I mean, we both crinkle our nose the same way, and we both scowl with our eyes and jut out our chins when we are angry… We both have curly hair and small hands. We look a lot alike, except for the fact that my skin is similar in color to a strawberry shake, and hers is more like a coffee with a cream or two…

When I was 16 years old my parents adopted a baby girl. She came to our house, right from the hospital. From her birth, Cierra has been my baby sister. But in high school, a friend asked me if we were going to tell her she was adopted. I was holding her in my arms. The contrast in appearance was, I am sure, striking.

I looked to my friend and replied “I think she’ll figure it out.”

But it seems as though a lot of perspective parents aren’t willing to let a child figure those things out. The waiting list for adopting a child in the United States is more or less 7 years. That child that so many people are on a waiting list for is healthy, and is white. Families are not willing to adopt children of color unless the family is of color as well. If a family wants a child that badly, why are they willing to wait 7 years? Are those the families we should be giving children to?